22 February 2024

Being shy - Illusory Advice


“One of the purposes of the sangha— the vajra family—is that it provides an arena in which trust can be developed. The vajra family are a group of people who are actively attempting to develop and hold pure view. On retreat the vajra family especially attempts to maintain pure view of their vajra brothers and sisters. They assume that their vajra brothers and sisters are also engaging with this practice. This means that you can trust that your fellow retreatants welcome interaction with you, and that they are interested in what you have to say and will respond kindly. If you say something clumsy or inappropriate you trust that they will not ridicule you but will wish to help you to communicate more effectively. If you hear a vajra sibling speaking in a way that seems hurtful or unkind, you entertain the possibility that they didn’t mean it like that and respond in a kind and open manner.”

page 138, Illusory Advice, Ngakma Nor’dzin & Ngakpa ’ö-Dzin, Aro Books Worldwide, 2016, ISBN: 978-1-898185-37-6



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