“Terrible things do happen in the world and there is the possibility of losing loved ones. It does not change the situation however, to dwell on this, and it does not help anyone to become miserable with worry. Imagining terrible things does not prepare you for when bad things do happen or prevent them from actually happening. It is common to daydream about the horrors-that-might-be. This can be a way of attempting to keep them at bay. You think that if you are able to conjure an image of the worst thing that could happen to you, then it probably won’t happen. You feel that if you have lived through it in your mind, it probably will not happen and if—heaven forbid—it does happen, at least you are prepared. It is a coping strategy.”
page 166, Illusory Advice, Ngakma Nor’dzin & Ngakpa ’ö-Dzin, Aro Books Worldwide, 2016, ISBN: 978-1-898185-37-6
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